get ex girlfriend back advice

How to Get a Girlfriend Back doesn’t have to feel like studying rocket science. There is no magic potion or some ultimate chemical formula that can change her mind and heart with a single drop.

The Secret …

What I can give you is advice and tips on how to get a girlfriend back in the best humanly way possible. Today is your first steps towards that goal so read on diligently and study every tip and every piece of advice I’m about to give you now. If you’d prefer more specified help that you can download and read then click here.

Think about it …

Before we begin discussing the most effective way of getting your ex back, I suggest that you should ponder on this first:

Do you really want to have your girlfriend back because it’s what your heart’s desire or you just want her back and you simply can’t bare to see her with anyone else?

In some cases perhaps she isn’t the one for you and in this case you really do need to move on and let go. Sometimes things happen because that path is meant to be  and there could even be someone out there who is more suited to you. in which case you need to know how to get over a girlfriend so you can move on.

The tried and tested approach ….

Here are two of the most recommended examples of getting your girlfriend back. You’ll find a lot of these techniques used by men (and women) to win back their ex’s so I would like to touch lightly on these techniques to give you a perspective.

1. 1.     Push Pull theory – Have you ever heard of the pull push theory? If not, I’ll explain to you briefly without getting trapped with technical jargon.

To understand push pull theory, you just have to visualize this:

2 steps Forward – 1 step Backwards

The idea is that you’ll pull the woman (get her interested) towards you by being sweet and thoughtful and later on you push her away (make her challenged) by being mysterious like walking away from her as if she’s nothing special.

The Reason: This approach can generally make a woman think by making her feel special, then the next you make her feel ordinary. This gives her a confusing position enough to make her take the bait of figuring you out.

The catch: This usually works when you’re still in the getting to know stage with a new woman, but for getting a girlfriend back; it’s a different matter because your ex-girlfriend already knows you. This approach might still work for you or it may backfire because you’re not being consistent with your ex-girlfriend.

1. 2.     The No Contact Zone – Have you ever heard of the “no contact” approach? If you’ve done enough researching then you will have heard of it or perhaps even tried it in the past. However for guys who have no idea what is is then I’ll spell it out for you. You might be doing this without you knowing what it’s called.

This is not the twilight zone …

The no contact zone is simply shunning off your tendencies to contact or communicate with your ex (isn’t it obvious from the name ‘No Contact’.

You’ll avoid:

Calling her

Texting her

Emailing her

Tweeting her

Seeing her

Commenting on her Facebook

 The Reason: It is to make your ex-girlfriend realize that it was her loss; a consequence of losing you. This will also give your ex some time and space of her own which is exactly what she wants; also, giving you some time and space for yourself to heal and evaluate what led to the break-up.

The catch: Most of the time this approach works and it is actually a win-win situation for you – whether you get her back or you’re moving on. If you want to get your girlfriend back, the no contact zone is highly recommended.

IMPORTANT: These techniques are very effective, read on …

Now, that we’ve skimmed through the two most fundamental approach, let us explore the deeper but practical and direct approach on how to get a girlfriend back with these no nonsense practical techniques every break-up alumnus should know.

Here are The 4 ultimate Steps:

1. 1.     Don’t hate yourself – After the break-up, guys are usually depicted partying for the first few days before reality crashes in that turns them into some miserable zombie clutter for the rest of the year. In these dark sullen times, guys either end up emaciated or obese because of depression. They don’t realize that they hate themselves because of the break-up. They feel like crap and end up looking like crap.

What you should DO: Love Yourself! - You must love yourself. You should because most of the time in your relationship, you’ve probably given too much love without leaving some for yourself. Your self-worth was totally hinged on reciprocation. Once you’ll start loving yourself, you want to look good, learn new things and explore the world. When your ex-girlfriend sees you’re becoming a better man; she’ll start questioning herself why she left you. After three weeks or a month of no contact and loving yourself, she’ll drop you a call.

1. 2.     Don’t be a beggar – by this, I mean you should not kneel on your knees and beg like a zealot worshiper. Pleading will only annoy her. In short, don’t be needy like a beggar. This will also make her feel you’re disrespecting her feelings.

What you should do: Be friends! Okay, easier said than done, but yes, it’s one of the best ways of getting your ex back. Remember, whatever the reason why she left you, it’s because she couldn’t trust her heart with you anymore. The only way of winning her trust slowly but surely is by being friends. When you start out as friends, she’ll see you as compassionate and truly understanding sentient being. Slowly she’ll start to trust you again and will eventually open her heart to you.

NOTE: Don’t force her to be friends with you; it’s the same thing with begging her to get back with you. Just go along and treat her as a friend whenever you cross her path, don’t nag her that she’s your friend. One day she’ll just hang out with you as a friend does and that’s a good start.

1. 3.     Don’t smother her – Showering her with thousands of flowers and chocolates won’t even make her budge if she’s determined to leave you. You cannot buy her heart with gifts and favors.

What you should do: Tell her funny memories. Now that you’re good friends, you can slowly slip in some of your wonderful moments when you were still in a relationship before things went rocky. You can make her miss you by reminding her once in a while about how clumsy you were on your first date or your blooper moments like:

1. How her mom laugh so hard with your joke her false teeth went flying and landed on your crotch.
2. How you accidentally used her feminine wash as mouthwash.

Of course, you shouldn’t miss out your wonderful romantic times as well. Slowly these memories will stream through her heart until one day; she’ll call you for a coffee because she can’t sleep thinking about your  funny times together.

1. 4.     Don’t be jealous – This trait will certainly make her think you own her like some sort of property. Remember, you’re, still slowly, and carefully working your way to win her heart back. If you’ll freak out seeing her talking with a guy, then you just blew your chances and all your efforts. Jealousy is not attractive!

What you should do: Be cool – Don’t get so affected, just let it pass by and do your thing. You can see other girls too and even get a date but don’t go beyond that if you’re planning to win your ex back. She will see that you’re in control with your emotions which will gain major points with her even the second time around. Women want men that are also emotionally stable. You know when women say ‘he’s my rock’ that’s what they mean.. emotionally stable.

Once you notice she’s voluntarily making herself exclusively available to you, that means your almost there. Even when you finally got her back, it doesn’t mean you should control her like a robot. You’ve been given a second chance; learn from your mistakes and become not just a stronger man, but also a better man for her.

Let us recap the 4 steps to get a girlfriend back:

Step 1: Don’t hate yourself – Love yourself

Step 2: Don’t be a beggar – Be friends

Step 3: Don’t smoother her – Tell her wonderful/funny memories

Step 4: Don’t be jealous – Be cool

These are the 4 ultimate steps on how to get a girlfriend back. Remember, patience and self-control also plays a big role in doing these steps. So what are you waiting for, go win her back hotshot!